Life is a mix of joy and sorrow, of happy and sad. It has taken me awhile to realize that it is okay to feel both emotions at the same time. It is okay to feel joy with the people around my Thanksgiving table AND to feel sorrow for the ones I have lost who will not be. It is okay to feel so full of joy that it seems my heart cannot hold any more, and to remember with sadness those who are not here.

Life is the fine art of holding on and letting go. I find that words can bring me comfort. They are something I can hold on to and revisit when I need them.

Here is a poem I found years ago that still serves me well today. I believe the author is Darcie Sims, I am going to share my favorite lines from it. I hope it brings you a bit of comfort this Holiday season.


“There are no more pictures to be taken, but there are memories to be cherished.

For that, I am thankful.

There is a missing chair at the table, but the circle of family gathers close.

For that, I am thankful.

The turkey is smaller, but there is still stuffing.

For that, I am thankful.

The days are shorter, but the nights are softer.

For that, I am thankful.

The pain is still there, but it lasts only moments.

For that, I am thankful.

The calendar still turns, the holidays still appear and they still cost too much. And I am still here.

For that, I am thankful.

The room is still empty, the soul still aches, but the heart remembers.

For that, I am thankful.

The guests still come, the dishes pile up, but the dishwasher works.

For that, I am thankful.

The name is still missing, the words still unspoken, but the silence is shared.

For that, I am thankful.

The snow still falls, the sled still waits and the spirit still wants to.

For that I am thankful

The stillness remains, but the sadness is smaller.

For that I am thankful.

The moment is gone, but love is forever.

For that, I am blessed: for that I am grateful.

Love was once and still is a part of my being, for that I am living.

I am living and for that I am thankful.

May you have many reasons to be thankful. I am wishing for you much love and laughter (it’s okay to have a bit of tears) this holiday season.